If you always want to have a melt down every time your child loses control on his emotions. Remember that the best way to respond to this is by not losing control too. Learn how to take care of a short tempered child with these simple steps.
Being a nanny, one may encounter all sorts of children with different temperaments and attitudes. There are children who can be easily disciplined and taught. But occasionally, a nanny comes across a difficult child with really short tempers. In this grueling situation, what must a nanny do and not do?
The first and foremost attribute that a nanny should have when dealing with short-tempered children is patience. It is significantly vital to keep one’s cool when pressured by the unruly behavior of the child. A caring nanny must keep his or her cool in order to think of ways on how to handle the situation more critically and efficiently. A short-tempered child will always lose his or her cool even in meaningless situations – that is already a given. But in order to properly take care of the child, the nanny should ALWAYS – this cannot be stressed out more – ALWAYS be patient.
Be Objective, Not Emotional
Once a nanny is able to keep his or her cool under the pressure of the child’s tantrums, he or she must then be able to think without partiality, and avoid responding in an instinctive emotional way that often leads to harming the child verbally or even physically. Consider the reason why the child is throwing a tantrum. Is it reasonable? Is it commonsensical? Or is the child just randomly throwing tantrums without good reason? Getting to the bottom of the issue is crucial in handling and providing for what the child needs. Sometimes, the child may want something, which cannot be given to him or her. Then it is the nanny’s job to explain things carefully and objectively, and in the simplest manner, in order to deal with the short-tempered child.
Anticipate the Future
Prevention will always be better than cure. Sometimes, the best way to deal with a short-tempered child is to avoid those things that trigger the child’s loss of self-control. Anticipate the settings that could put the child into higher risks of throwing tantrums, and try to avoid them as soon as the nanny recognizes the outside threat. Here is where knowing the child personally plays a crucial role for the nanny.
Do Not Take it Personally
Sometimes, when children lose their tempers, they also let loose of words or actions that may be offensive to the nanny. Always remember that as a nanny, as someone who is older and more experienced compared to the child, the nanny should know better. Just shake off anything that might be personally offending, and deal with the child in a loving manner.
Know Your Motivation
Always remember that as a nanny, one will never be successful and satisfied in doing his or her job without sincere love and sympathy towards the children that he or she takes care of. The nanny should always keep in mind the driving force that keeps him or her from feeling discouraged, hurt, or insensitive towards the children. Know that in many ways, the short-tempered child needs help, and the nanny can provide the help needed.
A short-tempered child should not be seen as an antagonist. Another great thing to appreciate here is that the nanny, in his or her own loving way, will have the priceless privilege and opportunity to affect the life of the child in a positive way.